So you’ve applied and been accepted to Rutgers University. Congratulations! You got into college! You’ve finished filling out all the applications, answering the same questions over and over again, writing essays, and constantly refreshing your computer screen to see if you had gotten in. That’s all history now, but what’s next?

For me, it was creating a FaceBook account and starting the search for a roommate. I joined three Rutgers groups and started liking posts and messaging girls right away. I agonized over what I would write for mine and which pictures I would include to make myself seem like the kind of person anyone would want to room with. I had three people proofread my post before I actually posted it, and I checked every single day to see whether or not anyone had commented on it, liked it, or sent me a friend request or message. I joined GroupMe’s and tried to be friendly and make conversation, but I couldn’t find myself a roommate. I reached out to people, but everyone I asked already had a roommate.

Initially, I was freaking out. I had heard all the horror stories about getting put with a random roommate and I was terrified. I had heard countless horror stories about being placed with someone disrespectful and rude, someone inconsiderate and mean, or even worse, someone you couldn’t be friends with no matter how hard you tried.

I was lucky enough to find a roommate, a girl I clicked with immediately. It was too good to be true. She was an amazing person, and she even qualified for a suite. I wouldn’t have to share a bathroom with anyone but her! For a few weeks, I was completely over the moon. I knew that I was going to go to a college that would be all I wanted it to be and more, and I would be rooming with a girl that I could easily call a friend. But as I said, it was too good to be true. The logistics didn’t work out and I couldn’t room with her. Turns out, that was the best thing to happen to me yet.

I didn’t have enough time to find another roommate, so I decided to join a Living Learning Community. The thought of having a completely random roommate was a little too daunting for me, so I settled for a random roommate within a small community. Through this, I gained a great experience, both getting involved in a community before I had even moved in to Rutgers, but also having a group of people I could easily become friends with and look to for support.

At the end of the day, no matter how you choose your roommate, whether you know who you want it to be, or you decide to go with random assignment, it’s important to remember that we’re all the same. We’re all incoming freshmen, terrified of not being able to make friends. So put yourself out there, talk to others. And remember, you’re not the only one hoping that you’ll be able to get along with your roommate.